10 Steps to Thriving After Divorce

Divorce is often painted as a breaking point, but for me, it was a turning point—a journey of rediscovery, empowerment, and healing. While the process was draining and stressful at times, it was also more empowering than my marriage had ever been.

Now, 4+ years after my separation, I’m happily remarried, raising my kids, and mostly healed (because let’s be real, are we ever fully healed?). Through this journey, I’ve learned that thriving after divorce isn’t just possible—it’s within reach for every mom willing to rediscover her strength and worth.

Here are the 10 steps that helped me not just survive divorce but thrive beyond it:

1. Acknowledge Your Emotions

You can’t heal what you don’t acknowledge. The year after my separation, I let myself feel it all—grief, anger, relief, and even joy. Emotions are messy, but they’re also a sign that you’re alive and moving forward.

2. Rediscover Yourself

Before I could take care of my body or even think about dating, I had to rediscover me. I spent time focusing on what made me happy—reconnecting with hobbies, spending time with my kids, and learning to enjoy being alone.

3. Focus on Your Kids Without Losing Yourself

For many moms, divorce feels like a balancing act between taking care of your kids and taking care of yourself. I leaned into being present for my kids while setting aside moments for me—because a happy, healthy mom is the best gift you can give your children.

4. Set Boundaries and Protect Your Peace

Whether it’s co-parenting, family dynamics, or your ex, boundaries are your best friend. They’re not just about keeping the drama out; they’re about creating space for peace and growth.

5. Embrace Being Alone

The idea of being alone can be terrifying, but for me, it became empowering. I learned to love my own company and realized that being alone didn’t mean being lonely. It meant creating a life I loved on my terms.

6. Take Care of Your Body

About a year after my separation, I was finally ready to focus on my health. Divorce drains you emotionally and physically, but taking small steps—like walking, eating better, or even just sleeping more—helps rebuild your strength.

7. Give Yourself Time Before Dating

Healing comes first. I gave myself the time I needed to rediscover who I was before opening my heart to someone new. That time of self-discovery made all the difference when I finally started dating again.

8. Find Support

You don’t have to do this alone. Whether it’s friends, family, or even online communities, surround yourself with people who lift you up and remind you of your worth.

9. Celebrate Small Wins

Progress isn’t always big and flashy. For me, it was the small wins—getting through a tough day, laughing with my kids, or just feeling a little lighter. Every step forward matters.

10. Know That You Deserve Happiness

You don’t have to stay in an unhappy, unhealthy, or abusive marriage “for the kids.” You deserve joy, peace, and love—and so do your children. There’s light at the end of the tunnel, and you’re stronger than you realize.

You Are Not Alone

If you’re in the middle of this journey, know that I’ve been there—and I see you. Healing takes time, but every step you take is worth it. My hope is that these steps give you strength, hope, and the belief that thriving after divorce is possible.

Let’s connect. Follow me on Instagram at @mrs_lindsay_g, reach out, ask questions, or just say hello. You’re not alone in this journey, and I’d love to support you as you take your next steps.