5 Self-Care Practices Every Divorced Mom Needs to Thrive

Taking care of yourself after a divorce isn’t just a luxury—it’s a necessity. But if you’re anything like me, prioritizing your needs can feel impossible in the midst of co-parenting challenges, work stress, and life in general.

When I first separated, self-care was the last thing on my mind. I was just trying to survive. But as I began to heal, I realized that taking even small steps to nurture myself made me a better mom, a stronger woman, and a happier person.

If you’re navigating post-divorce life, here are five self-care practices that helped me thrive—and can help you too.

1. Create a Morning Ritual

Why It Matters: How you start your day sets the tone for everything that follows. A simple morning ritual—whether it’s 10 minutes of journaling, enjoying your coffee in peace, or a quick stretch—can bring clarity and calm to your day.

What Worked for Me: I started waking up 15-30 minutes earlier than my kids to enjoy quiet time. Those few minutes became my sanctuary—a time to breathe, reflect, and prepare for the day ahead.

Quick Tip: Choose one thing that feels restorative to you and commit to it every morning, even if it’s just for 5 minutes.

2. Move Your Body

Why It Matters: Exercise isn’t just about physical health—it’s a powerful tool for managing stress, boosting mood, and reclaiming your confidence.

What Worked for Me: Walking became my go-to. Whether it was a brisk walk around the neighborhood or a slow stroll at the park, moving my body helped clear my mind and release pent-up tension.

Quick Tip: Find a form of movement you enjoy—dance, yoga, or even chasing your kids at the playground—and make it part of your routine.

3. Set Boundaries Around Your Time

Why It Matters: You can’t pour from an empty cup. Learning to say no to things that drain you—whether it’s overcommitting to activities or engaging in conflict with your ex—frees up energy for what truly matters.

What Worked for Me: I started blocking out “me time” on my calendar, even if it was just 30 minutes to read or unwind. Treating it as non-negotiable helped me honor my needs.

Quick Tip: Identify one thing you can say no to this week and use that time to do something just for you.

4. Nurture Your Mind

Why It Matters: Post-divorce life can bring a flood of emotions and self-doubt. Engaging in activities that nurture your mind—like journaling, meditating, and especially therapy—can help you process your feelings and find clarity.

What Worked for Me: I started keeping a gratitude journal. Writing down three things I was grateful for each day shifted my focus from what I’d lost to what I still had.

Quick Tip: Try a mindfulness app like Calm or Headspace for a few minutes of guided meditation each day.

5. Treat Yourself with Compassion

Why It Matters: You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough. Divorce is hard, and self-compassion helps you navigate it with grace and resilience.

What Worked for Me: I started speaking to myself the way I’d speak to a close friend—kindly and without judgment. When I made mistakes, I reminded myself that healing isn’t about perfection; it’s about progress.

Quick Tip: Write yourself a kind note or mantra, like “I am strong, I am capable, and I deserve joy.” Place it somewhere you’ll see it daily.

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s the foundation of your strength, resilience, and ability to thrive. As moms, we often put ourselves last, but taking even small steps to care for your mind, body, and soul can transform your post-divorce journey.

I’d love to hear from you:

• What’s one self-care practice you’ve tried that’s made a difference?

• Or, what’s one practice you’d like to start?

Let’s support and inspire each other! Follow me on Instagram at @mrs_lindsay_g, share your thoughts, or just say hello. You deserve this time for yourself—you really do.